Anyone have ideas on how to help motivate an overweight spouse?
I've been trying to help my wife stay motivated about her weight loss. We both have jobs with VERY different schedules, so trying to workout together is rare/impossible. I keep at my schedule - running mostly with a little bit of weight lifting five days a week. She never goes even though she has a plan/schedule. Never.
She also has no self-control with food. Point and case - I will get maybe 2-3 knife fulls of butter before she finishes off the rest of the tub when I'm not around. There's never any peanut butter for me to use. Bread? Sugar? Forget it. That and she eats at work constantly - I know because she tells me, crying.
I need help and have no more ideas. Short of keeping no food in the house, I have no other ways of keeping her motivated. Honestly, I'm willing to do just that and spend the extra time shopping each time we want to eat. Hassle, yes, but it will eliminate the binge eating on her part.
Before judgments begin rolling in, know now that I love my wife and will do ANYTHING for her. I want to help her with her weight loss goals but there just seems to be nothing I can do for the self-sabotage that she is inflicting on herself. Also know that I'm very honest with her and at no point have I brought her weight up as a negative (the weight loss thing is something we both agreed we had to do). It's just that after two months of straight work I've lost 15 lbs. and she has gained 10 and I feel guilty that perhaps my success is causing her to give up.
She has been on every diet known to man - we both did Jenny Craig together (which worked wonders) but as soon as we couldn't afford it anymore we stopped and gained all that weight back.
Any ideas would be much appreciated.
She also has no self-control with food. Point and case - I will get maybe 2-3 knife fulls of butter before she finishes off the rest of the tub when I'm not around. There's never any peanut butter for me to use. Bread? Sugar? Forget it. That and she eats at work constantly - I know because she tells me, crying.
I need help and have no more ideas. Short of keeping no food in the house, I have no other ways of keeping her motivated. Honestly, I'm willing to do just that and spend the extra time shopping each time we want to eat. Hassle, yes, but it will eliminate the binge eating on her part.
Before judgments begin rolling in, know now that I love my wife and will do ANYTHING for her. I want to help her with her weight loss goals but there just seems to be nothing I can do for the self-sabotage that she is inflicting on herself. Also know that I'm very honest with her and at no point have I brought her weight up as a negative (the weight loss thing is something we both agreed we had to do). It's just that after two months of straight work I've lost 15 lbs. and she has gained 10 and I feel guilty that perhaps my success is causing her to give up.
She has been on every diet known to man - we both did Jenny Craig together (which worked wonders) but as soon as we couldn't afford it anymore we stopped and gained all that weight back.
Any ideas would be much appreciated.
@Dino - Do you think a personal trainer would provide the nudging that she would need? I would love to be there for her but, again, most of the time we are ships passing in the night (this is going to change in about 5 months, but until then we have to deal with it). We don't have TV here, and I can't take away her computer because she has to (not optional) take home work every night. I'd rather not get into details about her work because I want to respect her privacy, suffice to say that it eats up a huge chunk of time combined physically going to the job and finishing the stuff at home.